We are often loaded with pre-occupied information on meeting anyone for the first time. And that makes it tough to know their personality. That’s where understanding the way of communication becomes important. According to researchers, our body language conveys 55%, voice tonality contributes to 38%, and only 7% comes from our communication. Therefore, during the first meeting with someone, we need to consider these three factors, besides the appearance of the person. So, take notice of the below mentioned clues, in order to gain insight into people’s personality on your important or first meeting with the same.
1 – Eye Contact
More commonly, eyes are always known to be an opening or window of anyone’s soul. It is the context which helps to explain the importance of finding out the eye contact you are getting from others. For example, when a person is literally maintaining their eye contact constantly, it could mean there’s a romantic interest. There is a flip side to this too. During your eye contact, if the other party is reluctant in making an eye contact back to you then they are really nervous and most likely to be hiding any data or details. Moreover, while talking if their continuous non-blinking staring makes you uncomfortable then they are lying to you and something is hundred percent fishy.
2 – Eyebrows
Looking at someone’s eyebrow will easily tell the comfort level of a person. There are 3 significant emotions which will raise your eyebrows: fear, worry and surprise. On a casual and relaxed talk with your friend, try to raise your eyebrows. It is impractical to do and makes it obvious. Because raising eyebrows during any conversation over a topic where it’s least likely or unlikely to see the element of any surprise, worry or fear then obviously their level of discomfort is pretty high.
3 – Smile
When we smile, unlike the mouth, eyes don’t lie. Genuine smiles knock at your eye’s door, wrinkles the skin to create crow’s feet around them. People easily hide real feelings and thoughts in their smile. So, do look for wrinkles near their eyes whenever you have to know how genuine someone’s smile is. The missing of those wrinkles confirms the hidden matter behind their fake smile.
4 – What They Say
When someone is talking about their wonderful better half or praising their work colleagues on their meeting with you for the 1st time, then it is safe to believe that they are decent as well. Studies show that people who rate others to be loving, polite, kind and well-mannered are very much likely to have those traits in themselves as well. And the reverse could also be true. Which means describing others as nasty and manipulative and backstabbing others, would mean they possess similar traits too. It won’t be a surprise if such people do have a past of emotional dysregulation or cognitive distortion.
5 – Paralanguage
Paralanguage is known to be nonverbal communication which includes your tone, manner of speaking or pitch. Basically, it’s a fancy manner of speaking that you are required to put emphasis on how something is being said by someone. For example, when a response reflects monotone, the person seems to be not attached at all in your concept and is not willing to stay interested in the same. At times, there could be a display of sarcasm in the conversation too. When anyone is using sarcasm, what they mean is totally opposite of their words. So, carefully notice the emphasis they keep on the words and how they talk about it. It showcases all the clues to you on their true intentions.
6 – Side Glance
So this one is not pretty hard to find out. An individual who is warm and open in their meeting, will be looking directly in your eye and keep their body posture front facing to you. Meanwhile, if you are meeting someone but they quickly glance aside, that is an indication of a subconscious or natural body language which means they’re more or less looking to escape, stop and quit this discussion.
7 – Frequent Nodding
This trait will reflect an element of agreement with your message in usual. However, exaggerated nodding may display their anxiety about approval. When you’re discussing with someone, and they are nodding excessively, this tells that they are very much worried about what and how you are thinking about them, or sometimes it gives a message of incapacity to understand and follow properly with any of your instructions. On the flip side, nodding frequently might be unconscious gestures which are cues for others to get a move on – similar to when anyone keeps looking at their watch or touches their car keys.
8 – Chin and Jaw
During your conversation with anyone, if you notice that someone is rubbing their chin along with looking up, down or to the side, then definitely they are having a deep thought over something in that moment and they are trying hard to make any decision. Followed by a clenched jaw which signals the stress mechanism ongoing on the person. This whole picture displays a great level of discomfort, irrespective of what the person is telling or displaying in their behavior. The talk may be proceeding towards something they’re anxious about; or their mind being elsewhere, and they focus on the thing that’s stressing them out.
9 – Posture
How someone is carrying themselves tells a lot of indications on their self-confidence. For example, if anyone walks upright with straight shoulders & back and a forward gaze, it indicates that they feel great about themselves along with a high level of confidence. However, if anyone is leaning over and looking at the ground during their walk, it may leave a different impression. Not always true to say so, however, low confidence, self-belief and self-esteem could also be one of those reasons for such a situation for them.
10 – Rubbing Hands
It is often believed that your hands easily broadcast whatever the head has been thinking. A person rubbing hands together most likely indicates they have a positive feeling over something. People are often seen with this behavior whenever they’re hoping for a situation or opportunity, that something good is coming soon in their future, and they’re excited about it.
11 – Handshake
A person’s handshake can disclose many things.
Soft and flabby – shows that they are very possibly to be submissive in nature with a feeling of pushover.
Too hard & crushing – shows that they are probably domineering types.
The time duration is significant here. Too long is weird, while too short indicates some kind of conflict. It’s quite likely that the individual does not wish to make any strong connection in this case. Not to forget, non-availability of enough time to continue further could also be one of the reasons here.
12 – Leaning In, Or Away
A posture of leaning forward towards you highly represents the other party being absolutely interested in you. This is also seen in the form of giving respect too. When people are getting closer and leaning into you during a talk, it discloses that they wish to confide in you. It will make you feel trustworthy and valued. If a person is leaning back then, it shows that they are feeling tired of the discussion or most likely they are uncomfortable due to some reason.
13 – Holding or Carrying the Baby
This is a bit of a strange one but worth noting. If you meet first time with anyone who is a new mother, look for the arm they are holding the baby. Studies tell us that happy mothers tend to carry their infants or kids in the left arm. While depressed and stressed mommies usually hold their kids in the right arm.
14 – Crossed Legs and Arms
Did you ever talk with anyone who crossed their legs or arms during your conversation? If it’s your 1st date, or if you pitch anyone a new plan or idea, it doesn’t show a good indication. Crossed arms as well as crossed legs seem to be a physical barrier which is suggesting the other individual is closed with your thoughts. Even if they smile and engage in a pleasant discussion, their body language shows the story. According to psychology, crossed arms or legs, shows that an individual is physically, emotionally and mentally blocked off from what’s being presented to them. Meanwhile, in the same time interval, the movement or positioning of feet in a direction is also quite revealing about their nature too. Having a person sitting with their feet directing towards you is a great sign disclosing that they like you a lot. However, as soon as their feet direct along the door, it confirms that they have had enough now and wish to leave.
15 – Shoes
An individual’s shoes can also tell you very much about their personality. Apparently, we often create assumptions about someone’s shoes, but studies tell us that they are very much precise.
✔ Nervous people will be using new and totally clean shoes.
✔ Amiable types will be attracted towards practical shoes and use the same.
✔ Calm individuals have a habit or attraction for uncomfortable shoes.
✔ Aggressive one’s wear ankle boots Now take a glance and check your shoes.
Is your personality type fitting in with them? What do you think?
16 – Overall Appearance
How people dress & present themselves often speaks volumes about their personality. If an individual has their hair in place, pressed clothes, and showing attention to style, then they seem to be very detail oriented. While the one with a more casual wardrobe could be creative, or somewhat messy. And talk about those who are smelly and look unkempt. They are genuinely lethargic souls who lack in doing any effort for their good.
17 – Copying Body Language
In case you’ve not ever tried to notice people before, then this could be unknown for you. But you must look for it in the future, because when people mimic anyone’s body language, it means they are feeling so good about them, that they are willing to harmonize with them.
It indicates that the communication is flawless and smooth. Also, they are receiving your notion very well and are highly cordial as well as receptive to you. The process here happens unconsciously. Since no one moves around with an intention of copying anyone outrightly. However, once there’s a level of comfort with someone, we tend to develop a tendency to mimic them. Many people among us are quite good at reading the signs which people give off. Meanwhile, there are several others who lack this ability, that they will require from other individuals to come out and tell them clearly about whatever is going on in their mind. It’s not an easy skill to read these various signs displayed by people every now and then. However, it’s a fantastic skill to have should you learn to observe or understand it well. Needless to say, every person is unique in whatever they do. Hence, it might be or might not be appropriate and accurate to interpret their words and actions. Quite hopefully, with these details, you’ll be developing a better or new skill to read well the people you’re going to meet.
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